60 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love
- Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!
- Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
- Smell good!
- Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
- Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
- Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complain about.
- Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:
- Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or
- Amicable divorce
- Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
- Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights
- Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.
- Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
- Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.
- Tell him he’s the best husband ever.
- Call his family often.
- Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
- When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.
- Encourage him to do good deeds.
- If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, inshaAllah.
- Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.
- If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
- When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.
- Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
- Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home.
- If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.
- Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.
- Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.
- Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.
- Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.
- Learn to make his favorite dish.
- Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.
- Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.
- Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.
- Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]
- Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”
- Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.
- Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.
- Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.
- Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.
- Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.
- Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.
- The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
- Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work.
- Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.
- Brush your hair, everyday.
- Don’t forget to do laundry.
- Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.
- Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)
- Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.
- Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.
- Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
- Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)
- Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).
- Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.
- If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until matters become worse.
- Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.
- Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …” (thats a killer!)
- Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!
- Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.
- If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel
- Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allah preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners, ameen! InshaAllah if you know more ways, post them in the comments and share the benefit.
(For brothers, check out 60 Ways To Keep Your Wife’s Love, and the romance alive! by shaykh Ahmed Shehab)
Hi i am a Kiribati lady with a nice husband, who was care and spiritual but sometimes i am failed and make him stress that can be cause any problems in our home so after reading this text i am agree with it and trying to change my past attitute to make my husband to be happy ever and ever.
awwww thats the best description ever!!! i will definatly take that into account!!!
Well, i agree with you but its not always work like that.
I really like and appreciate all your advise, I will definitely implement them when am married and I pray will stand by me. Once again thank you very much byeeeee.
it necessary to all women to behave like inshaallah will solve ar problem
Hi that is very important things.offciurse i will try it after marrige.
Thank u so very much for such a beautiful thoughts My Husband is the Best Husband i have ever seen,but sometimes he gets angry on little little things which makes me really upset as i live in another city with my husband far away from my parents and their guidance .But I found a satisfactory solution of almost all my problems in your article Kindly keep posting Such an encouraging article.
Jazak Allah.
Really i learnt so much on ur write up i prayed god wil help me
This is great advice. i know that this is what all healthy relationships are about. thank you so much. you have no idea how thankful i am for this. made my mood. Jazak Allah!
Ur advises r nice &i have doing all these about last 8 years , i have 2 kids . But my husband neaver ever admire s, my good looks , wel manged house & kids . My cloths , my cooking . He never makes me love like a husband he done it like a routien..
He gives me all luxeres , but never gave me few words of care , love & hope. if u have something change , plz tell me ‘ thanks.
It’s funny how every wife should follow these rules to make there husband happy and love them!! Well I want to no what in the hell is the husband going to do for the wife? I’m not going to be a slave my hole life if no one is going to appreciate me!!!!!
thank u i love my partner very much this s nice way to keep the relationship in a best manner ill follow it when i get marriage
It’s so that women and men, mainly non Muslims are on here trying to speak about these tips. Women and men are not the same therefore require different things. These tips are based on the sunnah, our way of life as Muslims. Why would a man want a women who behaves like a man. And for women that tips don’t work for after some time, maybe ur just not compatible and ALLah is testing you with this situation. So glad tidings to the patient. And why we mention god so much is because , nothing that’s not material is possible without assistance from your lord. And if u disagree with Muslims so much tell me why are u on this site. You obviously hav nothing better to do with your time. Leave the negative comments. Because whoever disagrees with these tips has a disease or sickness in their heart. And the only cure is QURAN.
Really very, very useful and important post for all spouses.
woow!!! its a wonderful prescription. am determined and committed to implement them when I meet my man. Thanks
Hmmm lots of it is very good :D…though my partner doesnt want me to just be a house wife since he worries about my health. The best thing to a relationship is communication and understanding each other and for both to support each other… Well thanks for more info that i can use to be even better.
Salaam, Brother in Islam,
Subhanallah, thank you for creating this wonderful page. I am only an ordinary wife who trying her best, to please her husband in Islamic way.
May Allah SWT blessed you.
Thokalllooo sodhiii………….
Enni chesina valu cheyalsindhi valu chestharuuu think difft maaaaaa
I would first like to say we DO live in a modern society and I do understand the modern-age ways of thinking of many women these days……however what you wrote here is VERY VERY true indeed…..even if it insults modern ways of thinking……there are differences between men and women and those differences should be pointed out and aknowledged and we will live in harmony as one…in a happy family union…great article!
Salam to all brothers and sisters,
I really like those tips .i think I’m not perfect there are few things that need to be changed in me. And I will try my best from right now. But I here’s condition is little bit different . I’m 19 years old and my husband is 42 years old. It’s third year of our marriage . My husband have 13 years old daughter from his ex GF . He loves her lot. I try my best to be nice to her but she is very spoiled kid ever. There’s always things come up between us bcuz of that girls my husband pay more attention to her. We don’t get time to spend with each other . My birthday came and passed but he didn’t do nothing . He is nice to me. He buy me everything but that’s not something I dreamed for , I want him to pay more attention to me and spend some quality time together . I know I’m not perfect either but I love him more then anything in my life . I’m very sensitive but I’m going through hard time bcuz I want to spend some time with him only .. I’m just so stress out . Please advise me about it and make DUA for me that ALLAH help me . SARAH..
Nice article.. all relationships are based on sacrifice, love, care n understanding..
My advise is that please ur husband as long as his wants and needs are in the boundary of Allahs happiness.. for our main objective in this world is to please Allah..
it is also very wrong for a ‘wife’ to think that she is a slave of the husband.. such thougts ruin relationships..bot the husband n wife have roles to play.. marriage is a spiritual, emotional, physical, mental bond… one who thinks its slavery is doing very wrong, because marriage is about two people being one in all aspects..
The Prophet (SAW) Said “If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadhan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her. Enter Paradise through whichever of its gates your wish.” (Ahmad)
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oh really nice way keep husband so close.thank you for this valuable advice.thankyou very much.
in fact i like this & i will like 2 add this:d wife should 1.always think of her husband progres 2.tell 2 assess her dressing & hair
It’s difficult to find well-informed people about this topic, but you sound like you know what you’re talking about!
Thanks
I really like your advise they are THE BEST TIPS FOR A WIFE to follow and also to do it and make their husbands happy and make the love more strong and give them respect thats the true life every body give what your husband wants never disagreea dont talk back at him . Ans this is the goodest idea .And when daughters grow up tell them to read dis cuase they will need it to, i really loved your tip Thank you VERy much BYE
Really Very Much Impressive thoughts…
Soon I Will Get Married..
Insha Allah Will Try to Follow It…
Thanks for just A Great Suggestion…
mmm…i love the steps but el hamdulilah im doing most of it to my sweetheart husband..cuz he deserves more than this hamdulilah…thank u again..
I love my husband more than anything in the world however he isn’t affectionate toward me as often as I need him to be. I am out of work and he is stressed but yet i want to feel his love as I did when we first met. I don’t know how to get rid of the resentment he has toward me…. I need his attention and long for it!!
i really like your advice inshaallah i will follow and do my best to my husband and follow your advices
assalaamu alaikum, i am zainab. i am newly married.. can i know what to do actually when he comes home in tension, to make it forget and see him smile happily
hi, such a wonderfull fact lines got printed in my heart
check and balance your husband very well, something is wrong, i was in this condition before my was worst he hated me so much that he had to kick me and my one year and five month old baby out, i cried begging for help.i left and went to my cousines house that night.i xplained every thing to her.she wiped my tears and told me not to worry.the nest day she took me to her spiritual leader(nanashekiri) to check what was wrong,we found out that he was ok physically spiritually a spell was cast on him by another woman.i was helped by the spiritual leader and the spell was cast out.
Pathetic!!!prob written by a eregant man!
Salaam.wonderful Advance.
may Allah SWT blessed u.
Thanks for this wonderful advice. I love my husband very much, i will make sure he is always happy.
Thank u so much ! It was really impressive to read. I have recently been married and is facing a little complications in adjusting with my husband and in-laws but these suggestions r really worth adopting if i want a happy married life. I make my husband upset over nothings but now i will take into account ur brain-opening tips.
I am sorry but I feel like having to do 60 things (most of which are just treating your husband like a King and not expecting anything in return) is silly and believe me it does not work. Unfortunatley I have seen girls (including myself) who have followed this kind of advice, and loved our huhusbands unconditionally and treated them like kings are the ones who suffer…men are cruel once they have your heart they take full advantage of it and stop making efforts to make you happy.
ON THE OTHER HAND, all the girls and women I have seen who have gaurded their feelings towards their husbands, acted a bit icy and not shown their love…they have their husbands wrapped around them trying to please them. You never see a beat up wife who wasnt a good wife, its always the good ones who get trampled on.
I am sorry this looks like it was written by a man.
Some of these things seem unreasonable, like racing to the door everyday to happily great a grumpy man who only gets annoyed with things of that sort. I feel like this advice is all the things men desire, but cant really act as good back to their wives so they end up not really wanting so much. I mean why make yourself attractive if your husband should love you for who you are? or if he makes no effort? Or if he ridicules you and drives insecurities into your head when you
So a woman does ALL of these things, and her husband treats her like an animal…then what?
I have been down this road, and have seen too many other women go dodown it…huge waste dont invest your heart and trust in your husband until he proves himself for atleast a few years.
salam i really like this advice cos most of all i dont have experience about good husband. my 1st husband we are always fighting we dont have respesct to each other. after we are broken family . and before im cristian and when i converted islam espescially i read quoran and know step by step evrything its in quoran.after that im getting married 1 guy muslim and i understand about husband on how to take care and evrthing? alhamdullila. and what i have understand in quoran alhamdullila and i follow after that its working 100% alhamdullilla i do it my husband.. alhamdullila im also bless to converted islam alhamdullilla. this advice if the people will follow this true.masallam.
i neva knew the sweetness of marriage until i red and practise your articul
this article really wow my heart. I pray Allah help me to implement them by HIS MIGHT and POWER. Jazakallahu khaer!
Hi, i am housewife, having one year daughter.
My problem is my husband dont talk anything. so am tensed how to impress him. his nature only silent. he dont express any his feelings.
how to impress him?
if impressed also he dont express anything.
Assalamwalaikum, am studying medical far away from my place. Ours so love marriage, my husband stays with his joint family and they are uneducated and my parents doesn’t talk with us. My husband loves me a lot but he always says not to talk with any men and if someone comes and speak to me he says to scold him and slap him, I says everything to him, I never syd him lie but he still doubts me, he never give permission me to go out of the hostel to buy anything, not even parcel should be delivered by a man, for small small maters he get angry with me and start scolding to me and give punishments too and scold my parents and sister with slang word and make to s
Assalamwalaikum, am a medical student of age 19, ours s love marriage, my husband’s age s 21. He stays with his joint family and they are uneducated, my husband also..and I also stay far from him and goes on holidays, my parent doesn’t talk with us. He always doubts me that i talk to any other men in college or outside for fun, but i will not do so, after marriage I left to talk with my friends. He will not give the permission to go out for purchasing also and even the food parcel should not be delivered by a men.I will say everything to him, my daily routines, he will call me for five five minutes, for silly matters he quarrels with me and by using slang words he scold me and my parents and sister and he makes me to call my parents and scold them by using slang words and he listen that by another phone..he says me that am a not a hours girl and he will get marry to another girl. He will not allow me to wear clean dress for college because am fair and good
but i wear burkha and hijab to college and remove there and wear only hijab, if I says this to him he says that am lying. I love my husband a lot and he also loves me but he always quarrels with me everyday for silly matters. He is a very angry man in his home also with everyone. He will do jokes and laugh when he is good, butwhen he becomes angry no one can control him…..so please give me suggestions to change him and make him to be good with me and also for me to how to change myself for him.
These tips are all possible Assuming that the husband is motivated, understands your love for him behind telling him these things and really wants to do these things. I have seen people who have lost interest in praying when they once used to pray 5 Times a day, stop going to gym when they once used to go to gym, watch dirty movies with way too much adult content and nudity in them, etc. They tell their wives they are trying to change them and that they can’t let them be the way they are and do the things they like to do such as watch movies wIth nudity. They say their wives are trying to control them, that they are feeling suffocated. The wife can’t hug them or snuggle with them. They say the wife is in their space and snuggling just coz she wants to spy to see what they are doing on their phones or computers. They don’t want to do stuff together with their wives such as walk, help clean etc. They say u do ur thing I want to do mine. U don’t need to be a part of anything I do.
What do you say to such husbands. Really. How should a wife deal wIth a husband like this.