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		<title>By: Light Upon Light Blog &#187; Blog Archive &#187; Sex in Western Culture</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-8704</link>
		<dc:creator>Light Upon Light Blog &#187; Blog Archive &#187; Sex in Western Culture</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 05 Sep 2007 00:22:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] It is amazing how Islam is attacked time and time again because &#8220;men can marry four wives.&#8221;  Instead of taking the defensive, how about this time we look at the hypocrisy in modern culture regarding sexuality? [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] It is amazing how Islam is attacked time and time again because &#8220;men can marry four wives.&#8221;  Instead of taking the defensive, how about this time we look at the hypocrisy in modern culture regarding sexuality? [...]</p>
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		<title>By: MuslimahWarrior</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-5264</link>
		<dc:creator>MuslimahWarrior</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Jun 2007 02:26:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu!

Sorry sis. I misunderstood your post. I must have been wayyy over tired. 

Please forgive me.

You are absolutely correct. It is widespread.
SubhanAllah.

May Allah protect us, ameen.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu!</p>
<p>Sorry sis. I misunderstood your post. I must have been wayyy over tired. </p>
<p>Please forgive me.</p>
<p>You are absolutely correct. It is widespread.<br />
SubhanAllah.</p>
<p>May Allah protect us, ameen.</p>
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		<title>By: Bint Amina</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-5107</link>
		<dc:creator>Bint Amina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jun 2007 02:38:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu ya ukhtee,

To clarify, I said the fitnah was not exclusive to the West, meaning that fitnah is prevalent in other regions of the world as well. May Allaah ta'ala protect us. Aameen. I think we delude ourselves if we think that the West is the embodiment of fitnah and ignore the other such trials and tribulations that occur 'back home', as you've mentioned. 

Indeed, it [fitnah] is something that is widespread; this leads me to the current state of the ummah and its rectification. I think we all recognize we are experiencing a sad state of affairs, and the solution is not (as sister MuslimahWarrior previously alluded to) to blame others for this situation, but rather, to look intrinsically and focus on ourselves. 

Shaykh Nasiruddin al-Albanee has said: "The best way to change the evil is for Muslims to repent to their Lord, correct their beliefs, and nurture themselves and their families according to the correct Islam, as Allaah says " Verily, Allaah does not change a people's condition unless they change what is in themselves." (Soorah ar-Ra'd 13:11).

Tasfiyah wa Tarbiyah (Purification and Cultivation) is the key to returning to the glory of Islaam. Incidently, 'Tasfiyah wa Tarbiyah' is also the title of a book written by Shaykh Al Albaanee of profound insight, inshaaAllah I hope you all benefit fromn this work.

Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu

BintAmina</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu ya ukhtee,</p>
<p>To clarify, I said the fitnah was not exclusive to the West, meaning that fitnah is prevalent in other regions of the world as well. May Allaah ta&#8217;ala protect us. Aameen. I think we delude ourselves if we think that the West is the embodiment of fitnah and ignore the other such trials and tribulations that occur &#8216;back home&#8217;, as you&#8217;ve mentioned. </p>
<p>Indeed, it [fitnah] is something that is widespread; this leads me to the current state of the ummah and its rectification. I think we all recognize we are experiencing a sad state of affairs, and the solution is not (as sister MuslimahWarrior previously alluded to) to blame others for this situation, but rather, to look intrinsically and focus on ourselves. </p>
<p>Shaykh Nasiruddin al-Albanee has said: &#8220;The best way to change the evil is for Muslims to repent to their Lord, correct their beliefs, and nurture themselves and their families according to the correct Islam, as Allaah says &#8221; Verily, Allaah does not change a people&#8217;s condition unless they change what is in themselves.&#8221; (Soorah ar-Ra&#8217;d 13:11).</p>
<p>Tasfiyah wa Tarbiyah (Purification and Cultivation) is the key to returning to the glory of Islaam. Incidently, &#8216;Tasfiyah wa Tarbiyah&#8217; is also the title of a book written by Shaykh Al Albaanee of profound insight, inshaaAllah I hope you all benefit fromn this work.</p>
<p>Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</p>
<p>BintAmina</p>
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		<title>By: MuslimahWarrior</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-5076</link>
		<dc:creator>MuslimahWarrior</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jun 2007 21:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wa'alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu to the sister above:)
I don't agree with you when you say that the fitna is not as exclusive as the west. Muslims who live in the west and are from muslim countries themselves have admitted how severe the fitnah is back in their own countries these days like Egypt, Saudi, Pakistan, Turkey, etc. And the way people dress being one of them, not to mention how much other fitnah there is back there. SubhanAllah, its widespread! All of these muslims are being influenced by the west and have a desire to be like the people of the west. 
Ameeeen to your duas sis.
Wa'alailkum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wa&#8217;alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu to the sister above:)<br />
I don&#8217;t agree with you when you say that the fitna is not as exclusive as the west. Muslims who live in the west and are from muslim countries themselves have admitted how severe the fitnah is back in their own countries these days like Egypt, Saudi, Pakistan, Turkey, etc. And the way people dress being one of them, not to mention how much other fitnah there is back there. SubhanAllah, its widespread! All of these muslims are being influenced by the west and have a desire to be like the people of the west.<br />
Ameeeen to your duas sis.<br />
Wa&#8217;alailkum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.</p>
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		<title>By: Bint Amina</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-5068</link>
		<dc:creator>Bint Amina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jun 2007 19:30:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu

That is not what I intended by my post, inshaaAllaah, I hope to clarify.

I should have substituted the word ‘criticism’ with comparison and made the statement general - not exclusive to the West - in order to convey my point more clearly.

Comparison, while it may not be needed to affirm your faith and raise your emaan, inshaaAllaah works to do so by default. What is this comparison I speak of? The same with which the sahabah used to look to their days before Islaam and the practices they had engaged therein and shed tears of regret, looking favorably upon their acceptance of Islaam and comparing the two realities; the same comparison with which we examine the status of the Muslim woman before Islaam and after its emergence, and how mashaaAllah Islaam raised her status; the same comparison with which one sees the wisdom behind the legislations set out by Allaah by witnessing its opposite – that of lowering the gaze, that of covering oneself, so on and so forth. It may be something you reach upon contemplation or discussion, but inshaaAllah they lead to moments in which you ponder upon the wisdom of Islaam and the Magnificence of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.   

This is the type of comparison I was alluding to, inshaaAllah. 

Moreover, the fitnah of ma’asiyyah is not exclusive to the West of course, but is a rampant reality – universally so (may Allah ta’ala protect us from it and may we give precedence to His worship – aameen).

Surely, Allah Most High Knows Best

Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</p>
<p>That is not what I intended by my post, inshaaAllaah, I hope to clarify.</p>
<p>I should have substituted the word ‘criticism’ with comparison and made the statement general - not exclusive to the West - in order to convey my point more clearly.</p>
<p>Comparison, while it may not be needed to affirm your faith and raise your emaan, inshaaAllaah works to do so by default. What is this comparison I speak of? The same with which the sahabah used to look to their days before Islaam and the practices they had engaged therein and shed tears of regret, looking favorably upon their acceptance of Islaam and comparing the two realities; the same comparison with which we examine the status of the Muslim woman before Islaam and after its emergence, and how mashaaAllah Islaam raised her status; the same comparison with which one sees the wisdom behind the legislations set out by Allaah by witnessing its opposite – that of lowering the gaze, that of covering oneself, so on and so forth. It may be something you reach upon contemplation or discussion, but inshaaAllah they lead to moments in which you ponder upon the wisdom of Islaam and the Magnificence of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.   </p>
<p>This is the type of comparison I was alluding to, inshaaAllah. </p>
<p>Moreover, the fitnah of ma’asiyyah is not exclusive to the West of course, but is a rampant reality – universally so (may Allah ta’ala protect us from it and may we give precedence to His worship – aameen).</p>
<p>Surely, Allah Most High Knows Best</p>
<p>Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</p>
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		<title>By: Ibn Al Khattab</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-4917</link>
		<dc:creator>Ibn Al Khattab</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 09 Jun 2007 15:53:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>MashaAllah, you are right.  I was only posting something to think about, and really it was directed to Muslims that are infatuated with the modern lifestyle, but you are right - it might be taken as an attack and that isn't the best approach to conveying the message.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>MashaAllah, you are right.  I was only posting something to think about, and really it was directed to Muslims that are infatuated with the modern lifestyle, but you are right - it might be taken as an attack and that isn&#8217;t the best approach to conveying the message.</p>
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		<title>By: MuslimahWarrior</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-4916</link>
		<dc:creator>MuslimahWarrior</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 09 Jun 2007 15:47:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wa'alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

To realise that Islam is the answer, we don't have to CRITICIZE others. First we look at our own faults before we look and talk about others whether they are muslim or nonmuslim. Who do we think we are to put down others for what they say and do when they(non muslims) don't even know or realise what they are doing is wrong. Just because its wrong in the eyes of Islam, that doesn't justufy for all. Because if they don't know, they can't implement it intentionally. We as muslims give them the message through wisdom, humbleness and with fear of Allah and the pleasure of Allah. Is this how we are suppose to give dawah? Honestly ask yourself this question and take some time to ponder it. Are we really eligible to say such things in this context? 
Allahu Alem, but I surely don't agree with it.

And I don't think the WEST is the only ones that walk around half nude. These appearances are also WIDE spread in the East now as well. So why is that we criticise a certain nation for what it does and think that the nations we belong to are SO great? SubhanAllah.

May Allah guide us and give us the ablility, knowledge and taqwa in conveying these type of messages, ameeen.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wa&#8217;alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,</p>
<p>To realise that Islam is the answer, we don&#8217;t have to CRITICIZE others. First we look at our own faults before we look and talk about others whether they are muslim or nonmuslim. Who do we think we are to put down others for what they say and do when they(non muslims) don&#8217;t even know or realise what they are doing is wrong. Just because its wrong in the eyes of Islam, that doesn&#8217;t justufy for all. Because if they don&#8217;t know, they can&#8217;t implement it intentionally. We as muslims give them the message through wisdom, humbleness and with fear of Allah and the pleasure of Allah. Is this how we are suppose to give dawah? Honestly ask yourself this question and take some time to ponder it. Are we really eligible to say such things in this context?<br />
Allahu Alem, but I surely don&#8217;t agree with it.</p>
<p>And I don&#8217;t think the WEST is the only ones that walk around half nude. These appearances are also WIDE spread in the East now as well. So why is that we criticise a certain nation for what it does and think that the nations we belong to are SO great? SubhanAllah.</p>
<p>May Allah guide us and give us the ablility, knowledge and taqwa in conveying these type of messages, ameeen.</p>
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		<title>By: Bint Amina</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-4891</link>
		<dc:creator>Bint Amina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 09 Jun 2007 04:23:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu

In light of the comment directly above,

Those who live in the West undoubtedly see its ills and I believe the wisdom behind such a post lies in its comparison. For subhaanAllaah, we see and recognize such things and realize that truly Islaam is the answer, the answer to all such problems. I find it necessary almost to acknowledge such things, or at least make a mental note of it, for in this, one sees the superiority of Islaam. 

“The beauty of a thing becomes apparent by its opposite” – this was relayed in a lecture on tawheed, for when we realize the nature of shirk and its evils we may truly appreciate the beauty of tawheed. Similarly, when we draw such comparisons between the West and the ideals of Islaam, how it would, inshaa’Allaah, eradicate the ills prevalent in the society; we raise the station of Islaam in our own eyes, giving it the honor it deserves, inshaaAllah.

However, I think we must distinguish between criticism by which we derive lessons and benefit and plain criticisms – the former allows us to reflect on how things should be, while the latter perhaps may not benefit at all, but instead simply leave a bad taste in our mouths. So inshaa’Allaah, if you are able to look at the situation from different lens, you may derive lessons from it. One such lesson as mentioned in the post that comes from the aforementioned observation is this – “Therefore, do not look to the people for what is right and what is wrong. Look to Allah (سبحانه وتعال), for the people will confuse you, and they themselves are confused.” Walhamdulillah.

Allahu ta’ala ‘alam.

Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</p>
<p>In light of the comment directly above,</p>
<p>Those who live in the West undoubtedly see its ills and I believe the wisdom behind such a post lies in its comparison. For subhaanAllaah, we see and recognize such things and realize that truly Islaam is the answer, the answer to all such problems. I find it necessary almost to acknowledge such things, or at least make a mental note of it, for in this, one sees the superiority of Islaam. </p>
<p>“The beauty of a thing becomes apparent by its opposite” – this was relayed in a lecture on tawheed, for when we realize the nature of shirk and its evils we may truly appreciate the beauty of tawheed. Similarly, when we draw such comparisons between the West and the ideals of Islaam, how it would, inshaa’Allaah, eradicate the ills prevalent in the society; we raise the station of Islaam in our own eyes, giving it the honor it deserves, inshaaAllah.</p>
<p>However, I think we must distinguish between criticism by which we derive lessons and benefit and plain criticisms – the former allows us to reflect on how things should be, while the latter perhaps may not benefit at all, but instead simply leave a bad taste in our mouths. So inshaa’Allaah, if you are able to look at the situation from different lens, you may derive lessons from it. One such lesson as mentioned in the post that comes from the aforementioned observation is this – “Therefore, do not look to the people for what is right and what is wrong. Look to Allah (سبحانه وتعال), for the people will confuse you, and they themselves are confused.” Walhamdulillah.</p>
<p>Allahu ta’ala ‘alam.</p>
<p>Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu</p>
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		<title>By: MuslimahWarrior</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-4666</link>
		<dc:creator>MuslimahWarrior</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 30 May 2007 02:01:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think there are BETTER things to write about people! :P
Instead of criticizing, lets try to change the corruption in the world.
Anyone can sit back behind a screen and say what they want but what is that gonna do??</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think there are BETTER things to write about people! :P<br />
Instead of criticizing, lets try to change the corruption in the world.<br />
Anyone can sit back behind a screen and say what they want but what is that gonna do??</p>
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		<title>By: Ibn al-Khattab</title>
		<link>http://www.ilmfruits.com/sex-in-western-culture/#comment-4665</link>
		<dc:creator>Ibn al-Khattab</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 30 May 2007 01:17:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear NoName, I believe that even though those with morals, and those with religious upbringings may feel and agree with you that cheating on your wife or husband is not acceptable, and neither is premarital sex, &lt;strong&gt;I really do believe that actually in our society it is in fact not just tolerated but encouraged.
&lt;/strong&gt;

This is evident from the mass media, and the popular culture, from the songs (from Britney Spears - Oops I did it again... to Jay Z), from the movies, from the TV shows, soap operas (days of our lives, etc) and so on that dramatizes and glamorizes this sort of lifestyle.

The fact that it is no longer illegal to commit 'adultery'; Infact that is not even the word used, rather the expression commonly used is much more gentle - 'having an affair' shows you that as a society we do not value fidelity in relationships.

If we did, there would be stronger punishments for those who break such laws.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear NoName, I believe that even though those with morals, and those with religious upbringings may feel and agree with you that cheating on your wife or husband is not acceptable, and neither is premarital sex, <strong>I really do believe that actually in our society it is in fact not just tolerated but encouraged.<br />
</strong></p>
<p>This is evident from the mass media, and the popular culture, from the songs (from Britney Spears - Oops I did it again&#8230; to Jay Z), from the movies, from the TV shows, soap operas (days of our lives, etc) and so on that dramatizes and glamorizes this sort of lifestyle.</p>
<p>The fact that it is no longer illegal to commit &#8216;adultery&#8217;; Infact that is not even the word used, rather the expression commonly used is much more gentle - &#8216;having an affair&#8217; shows you that as a society we do not value fidelity in relationships.</p>
<p>If we did, there would be stronger punishments for those who break such laws.</p>
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